Empathy: The Secret Of Effective Leaders. By Taiwo Odukoya



"If one member suffers, all suffer together, if one member is honoured, all rejoice together.  (1 Corinthians 12: 26)


In 1917, the famous Mahatma Gandhi established the Sabamarti Ashram. The goal was to step into the shoes of peasants and the downtrodden. He and his followers grew their own food, spun their own cloth, and cleaned out latrines - a job usually relegated to the untouchable (Dalit) caste. Gandhi's deep empathy roused millions of Indians, who supported him in the struggle for independence from the British. As journalist, Dr. Phillips Talbot recalled,  "Gandhi had an extraordinary capacity to talk to this massive crowd on a one-to-one basis; I think that everybody sitting there thought that Gandhi was talking to him." While I am not advocating that you abandon your comforts and start walking barefooted on the road, there is a sense in which independent India was birthed by one leader's strategic empathy. And today, we still see the trickle-down effect, explaining why India is still the world's largest democracy. 

In his book, _*Leaders Eat Last*_, leadership expert Simon Sinek describes empathy,  the ability to recognise and share other people's feelings, as the most important instrument in a leader's toolbox. To understand how people feel is to understand how it affects their needs and how that in turn affects their perception of leadership's effectiveness and their willingness to cooperate.  People are typically willing to make sacrifices for the common cause, if and when  they know the leader cares about them. 

These leaders:

* Exhibit high emotional intelligence, that is, they develop a feedback mechanism that enables them hear, see and experience what the people are going. 

* Not only welcome opposing views, but also learn from them to develop a workable strategy. 

* Are always willing to accept responsibility, when they are wrong and adjust appropriately. 

* Lead by example and make the interest if the masses a priority. 

* Consciously build trust,  even across seemingly impossible divides. It is in moments of temporary distress, such as currently being faced in Nigeria,  that leaders at every level need to connect to the feelings and experiences of the people, like we are just beginning to see.

The former American President, Bill Clinton had an unusual knack for connecting with people and gaining the cooperation of even his enemies. Speaking about the work of the Clinton Foundation at an event in 2006, he spoke about being in Northern Africa and how people passing each other on the mountains often greeted themselves, not with a "hello" or a "hi," but by saying "I see you" "Think about that for a second," said Clinton. "It confers dignity..."

For any nation to effectively develop, it will require the cooperation of the masses. The leaders then will need to let them know that they "see them"; that they hear their frustrations loud and clear and will do everything within their powers to alleviate their problems and satisfy their yearnings.

Nigeria Has A Great  Future.


Daniel Taiwo Odukoya (15 June 1956 – 7 August 2023) was a Nigerian pentecostal pastor. He was the co-founder and senior pastor of The Fountain of Life Church, situated in Ilupeju, Lagos, and with a membership strength of over 8,000 people in the 2010s.[

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